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Monday, July 04, 2005

Slower, please.

You have come to the realization that you need to find a girlfriend and settle down. Recent events have shown you this. Your behavior of late is indicative of a larger problem and that problem is a lack of female companionship. That and the fact that inevitably you will get older and if you don't find someone soon you may end up alone.

Hyperbole is a good word.

Though this post is more accurately hyperbolical hyperbole.



  • don't fall for the myth that you need another person to be complete. loneliness is one thing, but just remember that there are no guarantees... even if you find the right person, there's no guarantee you'll "end up" together. besides that, relationships take a lot of work.

    some of the best advice i received when i was hopelessly alone was that
    you really should enjoy your time alone and work on becoming the best person you can be. that way when a relationship does come along, most if not all of your insecurities about yourself will be minimized and you'll have a clearer picture of what you bring to the relationship.

    in short, find yourself before finding someone else.

    [stonegrody, you listening? ;-)]

    By Blogger kingyubba, at 7:33 AM  

  • But when does anyone truly find themselves? Life is a never ending journey of self discovery.

    I agree, you should enjoy the time you have alone and do what you can to enrich your life. You should do that regardless.

    I also see the need for companionship. I personally learn the most from other people. My friends, my family, even strangers and people I don't like. Being with someone on the most intimate level also has a lot to teach us about ourselves. Being in and dealing with relationships also teaches us a lot. About who we are, who we want to be and how we treat others.

    I see ky's point and I hear it loud and clear, but I'm on the same boat as dp. I'm reaching a point where I am more comfortable with being alone and I don't feel that need for a girlfriend. Now, it's a want, which makes a big difference.

    By Blogger Stone Grody, at 9:33 AM  

  • granted, life IS a neverending journey of self-discovery, however, what i'm getting at is dealing with personal issues. people in bad relationships often get there because of unresolved issues. most people aren't aware of their issues, some are in denial. self-examination is a great thing to do in between relationships... not to drive yourself crazy, but to try and learn from things: actions, emotions, words.

    or try opening yourself up to something new. a well-rounded personality is part of a healthy relationship.

    By Blogger kingyubba, at 3:25 PM  

  • ky,

    You make excellent points and I completely agree with them. The issue, at least for me, is that after 3 years by myself getting to know who I am and becoming comfortable with it, I am now starting to notice that all of my friends are pairing up.

    And it makes me a bit jealous. Brilliant.

    By Blogger dp, at 1:23 AM  

  • dp, i can definitely understand that. i felt that a lot. i've been wanting to get married since i was 13... not that my 13 year old friends were hooking up, but it was just something i wanted. and all the way up until the point i met my wife, i did feel this kind of hollow loneliness. but the day after i did meet her, it disappeared and it didn't seem that bad in retrospect.

    you and stonegrody need to go hang out and try to pick up girls. tag-team wingman.

    By Blogger kingyubba, at 3:09 PM  

  • We've actually talked about that. The problem is we're both timid introvert pansies. But who knows, maybe between the two of us we could grow some cajones.

    I say we go for it. We should go all out and see how many times we can get rejected in one night. Let's try to set a record!

    By Blogger Stone Grody, at 5:17 PM  

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